Letters to my Daughter: Women’s Experiences in Afghanistan

Letters to my Daughter: Women’s Experiences in Afghanistan

We have heard countless stories speaking to the injustices and brutalities faced by women in Afghanistan.  In Letters to My Daughters, Fawzia Koofi, an Afghan woman writes about her personal experiences living in Afghanistan during the civil war.

A member of parliament in Afghanistan, Koofi, 35, is chairperson of the standing committee on human rights and civil society, and a candidate for the presidential elections in 2014.

Her book is a memoir, beginning from birth when her mother left her to die from exposure.  The first half focuses on Koofi’s struggles with her limited access to education.  She explains that she was the only girl from her family who was allowed to attend school, and only because her father was no longer present.  Once the Taliban took control, she was immediately forced to quit medical school.




In a later section of her book, Koofi describes a trip she took to northern Afghanistan with a team of foreign surveyors.  There she realized that one of the biggest difficulties faced by women was access to health care services -a problem that did not exist before the war.  Once the civil war began many facilities were destroyed, and most physicians were forced to migrate to neighboring regions.

The situation was further exacerbated when the Taliban took over.  Women were no longer allowed to work in health care facilities, except in a select few hospitals (functioning under deplorable conditions) designated for women only.  Male doctors were prohibited from seeing female patients and female doctors were seldom allowed to work, leaving female patients without treatment.

Many women living in smaller cities and villages still do not have access to health care services, leaving them to die from illnesses as common and easily treatable as diarrhea.

Throughout the book, Koofi describes how she consistently experienced inhumane treatment by Afghan men.  Systematic gender discrimination was made worse with the arrival of the Taliban and, although they have been removed from power, the prejudice still continues in most regions to this day.

Women are still harassed if they leave the house without their shroud-like burqas and a male chaperone.  Many women around the world face domestic violence.  As is often the case, the abuse occurring in Afghanistan is considered a family matter, without much hope of intervention or help from authorities.

Koofi emphasizes that the arrival of the American forces resulted in liberation of Afghan women.  Critics accuse her of being a “traitor” for siding with the Americans, and some consider Koofi to have obtained personal gain by writing a book that humiliates the Taliban and elevates the status of the U.S.




Although Letters to my Daughters describes Koofi’s personal experiences, the memoir sheds light on the troubling hardships many Afghan women face.  Although change seems more likely with a new democratic government in place, it will still take years before the women of Afghanistan are able to enjoy the opportunities that Koofi and other women are fighting for.

The book provides a fascinating insight into her personal struggle, and the struggle of so many like her.  Koofi’s book is a must read for anyone interested in understanding Afghan women’s traumatic experiences.

-Fareena Shabbir, Contributing Writer