Friends
Disclaimer: Please note that the following post discusses a song which contains some explicit lyrics.
The song “FRIENDS” is a track from artist J. Cole’s 2018 album “KOD”. This song is a conversation between Cole and his suspected alter ego “kiLL edward” about some of the struggles related to mental health and drug abuse.
Edward represents a person who has chosen to self-medicate with drugs because they are overwhelmed by their mental health issues:
“I got thoughts, can’t control
Got me down, got me low
Rest my mind, rest my soul
When I blow, when I blow
Am I wrong, let them know
Feels so right to let things go
Don’t think twice, this is me
This is how I should be…”
Cole’s response to this begins with an expression of empathy about the difficulties of living without drugs once you’re used to coping with them:
“But I’m aggravated without it
My saddest days are without it
My Saturdays are the loudest
I’m blowing strong
Some n****s graduated to powder
I dabble later, I doubt it
My database of narcotics
It’s growing long”
After this, his lyrics then begin to unpack some of the more complicated reasons behind why people end up addicted to drugs, with the overall message of this section being that drug addiction is complicated issue involving personal, social and sometimes political factors:
“What I’m tryna say is the blame can go deep as seas
Just to blame ’em all I would need like twenty CD’s
There’s all sorts of trauma from drama that children see
Type of s*** that normally would call for therapy
But you know just how it go in our community
Keep that s*** inside it don’t matter how hard it be
Fast forward, them kids is grown and they blowing trees
And popping pills due to chronic anxiety”
Towards the end, Cole expresses sympathy at the fact that drugs can sometimes feel helpful in the moment but warns Edward that the consequences of drug abuse can be grim. He encourages Edward to try an alternative to drugs- specifically, meditation.
“I know you say it helps and no I’m not trying to offend
But I know depression and drug addiction don’t blend
Reality distorts and then you get lost in the wind
And I done seen the combo take n****s off the deep end
One thing about your demons they bound to catch up one day
I’d rather see you stand up and face them than run away
I understand this message is not the coolest to say
But if you down to try it I know of a better way
Meditate….”
Check out the full song and lyrics at https://genius.com/J-cole-friends-lyrics
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Feature Image: Chang Duong, on Unsplash, Creative Commons